Friday, April 24, 2009

Newly Domesticated?

So I got married on November 22, 2008. I've been with my husband for 4 years and living with him for 2. My husband and I get along for the most part, he is my best friend and my second half but I'm battling with one part of this whole married thing and the domestic part. I don't know, I thought maybe it would come natural as soon as we got married. Well I thought wrong.

I find this very funny because I can't get myself to cook everyday or even a couple of times a week or clean everyday. I don't spend countless hours shining my pots like maybe I should. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a messy person, during the week small messes acumulate here and there and on saturday or sunday I get up and clean my house. But as far as cooking, I'm not a cook. I don't know many receipes just basic spanish food, then I would have to go food shopping. Then season everything and then it doesn't even taste right because I'm extremely rusty.. grrrr I'm having a hard time with this, it's more a hassle then enjoyment. Maybe when I start having children it'll get better but what happens in the mean time? My poor husband has to suffer? He loves home cooked meals and he is good guy lol he eats everything I attempt to cook. When I feel like having a spanish home cooked meal I call my mother and put in my order so to speak, and by the time I get there it's ready.

I don't know what the deal is with me!! Not to offend anyone but I'm SPANISH!! Wasn't I supposed to be born with this?? I'm just supposed to know these things. My mother is in her 60s and she comes home from work and immediately starts cooking and cleaning. This was what I was raised looking at. This was always the example of married life I experienced. As far as my husband, he is used to the same thing. His mother always had everyone's food seperated and ready to eat when he got home. I want to be that for him. I want to be the wife he signed up for.

I know I come home from work around six-ish and first I need to relax and watch some of my shows on my DVR. I think, hmm what am I going to have for dinner? Open the fridge get some water and order takeout. My husband gets home midnight or a little past midnight so depending what I'm getting I'll get him something and thats it! By the time I know it it's time to go to bed.

I try to make sense of this whole situation I have going on. I think maybe it's because I'm home alone most of the time so I'm not inspired? Is anyone out there going to through this dilema? HELP!
I'm going to do my part in, it's time I mature that part of our lives. He satifies all my request so why shouldn't I satisfy this one request of his? I'm going to put in work and post a update in about 2 weeks on this topic.
Keeping my fingers,
Simply Denisi <3


  1. Well Denisi,I think you should go out and purchase a simple cookbook and use it. Not to sound rude, but you've got to start somewhere, hey? Or, better still, ask your mom or your mother in law to give you cooking lessons! They, I'm sure, would feel honored that you asked and then you'd be cooking meals that both of you are used to eating.

  2. Yes you are completely right. That'll be a good start. My mother lives right by me so I can take some lessons from her. I've thought of asking her but I feel a little embrassed. I don't want to be viewed as a bad wife or anything. I love my husband and I always make sure he knows I'm here for him but I have to tighten this up for us.

    Thank You so much Jane.

    Hope to hear more of your wonderful advice,

    Simply Denisi.